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I often wondered why we do what we do.Today I have some answer.

Dernière mise à jour : 26 oct. 2022

I often wondered why we do what we do. In fact, it is a question that bugged me for years. Today I have some answer.

What became obvious as I studied non-violent communication was that we are motivated to fulfill our needs. Needs are simply a channel for life to express itself. So our motivations are intrinsically pro-life at their core.

Complications arise when we know doing something is good for us, yet we don't do it; or when we know we are doing something bad, yet we do not stop. So I asked myself this question: what happens in my head when I decide to do something and when I don't? What are the determining factors?

When I decided to do something:

1. I anticipated the result would be pleasant.

2. I believed it would happen (I trusted my ability to make things happen and believed it was possible).

When I decided to not do something:

1. I anticipated the result would be painful.

2. I didn't believe it would happen, even if I tried.

This was a good start, but I wanted to understand what motivates and inhibit action at each level of the being:

On the physical level:

Inhibitor: pain

Motivator: pleasure

On the intellectual level:

Inhibitor: contradictions.

Motivator: congruency.

Intellectual congruence is composed of 3 things:

1. Clarity of perception.

2. The strength of the link between ideas.

3. Certainty in the ideas.

On an emotional level:

Inhibitor: positive emotions (emotional needs are met).

Motivator: negative emotions (emotional needs are unmet).

On the level of the ego:

Inhibitor: incompatible with self-image.

Motivator: compatible with self-image.

On a spiritual level:

Inhibitor: heart feels heavy.

Motivator: heart feels light and joyful.

Next I needed to understand how some of these parameters can be changed to:

1. Do what I know is good (even if I procrastinate initially).

2. Stop doing what is bad (even if I am hooked).

This led me to the creation of my latest process: Immersion, which was proven to be effective for mastering behavior.

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