Dernière mise à jour : 26 oct. 2022
I often wondered why we do what we do. In fact, it is a question that bugged me for years. Today I have some answer.
What became obvious as I studied non-violent communication was that we are motivated to fulfill our needs. Needs are simply a channel for life to express itself. So our motivations are intrinsically pro-life at their core.
Complications arise when we know doing something is good for us, yet we don't do it; or when we know we are doing something bad, yet we do not stop. So I asked myself this question: what happens in my head when I decide to do something and when I don't? What are the determining factors?
When I decided to do something:
1. I anticipated the result would be pleasant.
2. I believed it would happen (I trusted my ability to make things happen and believed it was possible).
When I decided to not do something:
1. I anticipated the result would be painful.
2. I didn't believe it would happen, even if I tried.
This was a good start, but I wanted to understand what motivates and inhibit action at each level of the being:
On the physical level:
On the intellectual level:
Intellectual congruence is composed of 3 things:
1. Clarity of perception.
2. The strength of the link between ideas.
3. Certainty in the ideas.
On an emotional level:
Inhibitor: positive emotions (emotional needs are met).
Motivator: negative emotions (emotional needs are unmet).
On the level of the ego:
Inhibitor: incompatible with self-image.
Motivator: compatible with self-image.
On a spiritual level:
Inhibitor: heart feels heavy.
Motivator: heart feels light and joyful.
Next I needed to understand how some of these parameters can be changed to:
1. Do what I know is good (even if I procrastinate initially).
2. Stop doing what is bad (even if I am hooked).
This led me to the creation of my latest process: Immersion, which was proven to be effective for mastering behavior.