Self-empowerment is about mastering one's own mind.
It is not an easy task.
We tend to associate specific reactions with outside circumstances, reinforcing the same beliefs about ourselves and the world, leading to the same feelings and behaviors.
If we are not careful, we can become completely entangled in this web we create for ourselves, often without being fully aware of the process.
The mind is an excellent servant but a terrible master.
Be the master.